my current POV is most APs are nowhere near seeing the inner world of their adopted child. Most APs look for reasons to deny or overlook or minimalize this kind of observation, aimed to help them. It's much easier to follow myth, grouptalk, & parent-1st. 'Love us, tell us, support us' which is fairly mild in its challenges...would raise defensive shields & a string of "we not so bad, you couldn't mean us APs, must be the other ones" posts on Yahoo sites. Wouldn't expect it of IAT, but we APs here can be off-track. I flounder, its a given. Gordon at IAT, with permission.
Originally posted 2007-02-06 17:44:03.
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