conversation bit yesterday with dd age 8.5 while talking about China parents.

"you really don't feel like my real moms"
"I understand why you feel that way. It's ok to feel what you feel.We want you to know that you do feel like our real daughter"
"You kind of feel like my vice-moms. You know, when the real president can't do the job then the vice president steps in?"
"hmmm.....that fits..."

I've thought about this for a couple of days. the "vice mom" term really captures some complexity I think.

wanda
vice mom in charge of cookies and friday-night-family-dance-party
from IAT, with permission

Originally posted 2007-08-02 06:49:19.

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