For those of you parenting adopted children this is a friend’s thoughts on seeing the film with her two adopted daughters so you will have a better idea of what it entails. As I said, my College Girl saw it and loved it, wants me to take the little girls. Both little girls want to see it, but until I told them, they did not know it had to do with being abandoned and adopted.
Karin
It’s a “spoiler” to tell you but he winds up being ABLE to find his bmom and chooses not to. He turns away from her as she walks away and instead looks at his adoptive parents younger, and the orphanage director/foster mom figure as she looks down on baby him lovingly. Someone says to him, I thought you wanted to see your birth mother? And he responds, I don’t need to now, I HAVE a family. (That’s the gist of it, not the exact words).
The message of the”hero” of the film is “go forward”. I thought that was brilliant and in keeping with what adopted kids need to know and do to have a happy life. They may or may not ever find the birth parents or resolve why they were abandoned, but they do have the option of noticing that some people DID want them and care about them. In this movie it’s not just the eventual a-parents but the freinds, orphanage director, teachers, who give the kid what he needs to be a happy and successful person.
That’s the big suspense element of the film. He wants to use a machine to go back in time or back in his memories to see her. He gets thwarted several times and then the end suprise is that he does have the chance. You see him THINK about running after her to meet her, ask questions, talk her out of abandoning him maybe, but then he turns away. Not in anger, just because he is more interested in the early days of the family he will eventually wind up with. He’s not rejecting HER, he’s just more interested in moving forward.
I do think the going back “to make myself whole” theory of birthfamily search is not really going to make most kids(and the adults they become) “whole”. They ARE whole. I had not seen that before in a movie, let alone a cartoon. [And sometimes even going back is not going to reclaim all that was lost. Karin]
Don’t get me wrong, it’s a cartoon, not a Deep Spiritual Experience. BUt I think it’s good for our kids, many of whom were also found on doorsteps, to see that it’s not the end of the world.
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