One of my girls got in the car crying yesterday. Mean girls. Mean girls. Don't know if she contributed some or not, but she is sweetly sensitive which sometimes makes you a target.
She went off to school this morning hoping there wouldn't be a repeat.
I told her about college girl's forays into mean girl territory when she was in high school and junior high. I told her some of what I had faced. I told her about books that have been written about this phenomena.
And college girl came home last night for spring break so she talked to her too.
And I asked her if there was anything she wanted me to do. Did she want me to talk to the teacher, etc?
Meantime we had one of her friends over for play and dinner, which helped a lot. I encouraged her not to say too much as it sometimes comes back to haunt you. But this other friend said that mean girl had been really nice until she got with a couple of other girls.
Well, you know how you don't think of things to say in the moment, but maybe years later.
I got to laughing with college girl and her, and I said, laughing, you should have asked her if she had a kleenex.
Why? said younger girl.
I said, because then you could say because she was being a snot!
My bad.
So far as I know, this is original to me. When telling a friend and her 20ish daughter, her daughter thought it was funny and clever.
I also told my girl not to really say this, but if she thought it in her mind, it might help her laugh about it some.
She mentioned that to me in the car this morning.
Two movies my girls love are Mean Girls 
They know the concept of mean girls, but it's different bearing the brunt of it.
Have you had successes with overcoming mean girl syndrome?
Karin
Originally posted 2007-03-09 12:19:49.
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Unfortunately, I was a target of meanness right until high school when I found that people just didn’t care that much any more. Elementary thru Jr. High just weren’t pleasant times, but I survived, b/c I had a wonderful fantasy life and I read tons of books and did a lot of creative stuff with friends in my neighborhood (none of whom went to my schools). 3 of us in Jr. High wrote a shared novel about mean girls by passing a notebook between each other in classes.
And now, when I return home to visit my Mom, it is the mean girls who remember me 35 years later — and say hello! How bizarre is that!
You made your mark. Good for you!