Dear Abby today has a partial column on whether an aunt should tell her niece (now in her 50s) that she was adopted. The adoptive mother is now passed away. She had wanted the information kept secret during her lifetime, thinking she might lose her daughter's affection. The aunt wondered if she should tell, on the off-chance she has siblings.
Abby says to tell...so she can initiate a search if she wishes...and to know if there is any genetic predisposition to illness. She gives a very unequivocable answer.
I am aware of at least one situation where it shattered the adoptee's life.
What do you think? why or why not? Do you think there is only one right answer? (BTW we talk openly about adoption here, how could we not?)
See also my remarks on February 2. You can find it easily under the section, what the hell were they thinking.
Karin
Originally posted 2007-01-31 10:16:08.
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