Remember the old adage: when life gets tough, the tough get going?
Well, even better than that is to have a plan in your arsenal to get you through the tough times. And if you’ve lived long enough, you’ve likely gone through tough times more than once, and you have some idea of what works for you.
Some things have to be out-waited — and maybe out-witted — just to get you through, and I don’t want to discount those times. Try to make it easier on yourself.
When the storms of life blow, whether actual or figurative, is there something that warms you up?
Once again, Ayala has included a group of us in listing what works for us.
What brings you comfort?
It’s likely different for everyone, but try to add to your life those things that bring you comfort, when life is especially rough. Take time for yourself, not only to process, but to be good to yourself.
A cup of tea, alone or with a friend … Starbucks! … a new book — or finish one you haven’t taken the time to get around to … fresh flowers … prayer and meditation … quietness … a spritz of your favorite comfort scent … write in a journal … add to your list of gratitude … do something to take your thought off it … do something nice for someone else … see a movie … listen to music … contact a friend … send an email … do some beading … take a walk … jog … ride your bike … do some yoga … a warm bath (and light some candles) … hot chocolate … your comfort food … window shop … spritz a fragrance in memory of a loved one …
Whatever works for you! It doesn’t really matter what works for someone else, if it doesn’t work for you.
I always feel close to my folks, who are gone now, if I window shop. My mother and I used to window shop each Christmas season, and our family business was in retail. I like to wander around by myself, just window shopping. I like seeing what is new, and it feels comforting to me.
But it might not be comforting to you.
Finding comfort in comforting scents
I have two ways of dealing with difficult moments: either I don’t wear perfume at all (I know, you can hardly believe it!) or I choose whatever scent is calling me at the moment and that I think would make me happy/happier. If I were going through an extended hard time, I would definitely rotate fragrances so I didn’t associate one fragrance with the difficulty.
I find that scents can wake me up enough that I think of the scent and not the problem, if that makes sense. So I might choose something I don’t normally wear, just to break through my thought process and give me a break.
I’d likely not wear a fragrance, or wear it lightly, if I were going to the dentist, for example, but I would spritz myself when I got out. Somehow that seems kinder to the hygienist too.
Here are some scents I am enjoying right now. They make me happy, and seem right for this in-between season when it is still cold here (for us) but I am ready for spring (but not the heat of summer):
Guerlain Moscou — this has just enough of a gourmand that it smells of chocolate on me, though it’s not listed as a note, but isn’t cloyingly sweet.
Notes: Musk, fruit, wood…vanilla, bergamot, red currants, absinthe, lemon, plum
Guerlain 68 — this one has a little more punch, must be all that citrus, than Moscou — I sometimes layer the two after one has dissipated.
Notes: green tangerine, lemon petit-grain, limette, star anise, coriandre, cardamom, pepper, immortelle, opoponax, and cedar.
or: bergamot, green mandarin, lemon, clementine, orange peel, blood orange, sweet lime, grapefruit, basil, fennel, star anise, lavender, bay leaf, cypress, elemi, thyme, myrthe, bigarade, mandarin, petit grain, lemon petit grain, pear, violet greens, lierre, gentiane, seve, blackcurrant, freesia, lily of the valley, hazel leaf, cyclamen, cardamom, coriander, black pepper, pink berry, nutmeg, ginger, jasmine, frangipane, magnolia blossom, orange blossom, peony, rose, carnation, ylang-ylang, lychee, fig, blackberry, immortelle, lentisque (mastic), opoponax, amber, benzoin, vanilla, cistus, heliotrope, iris, tonka bean, sage, musk, patchouli, agarwood, cedar, sandalwood, vetiver, vegetable musk, praline, myrrhe and lichen.
Guerlain Tonka Imperiale — this is a little headier, a little warmer, and leans me towards Kilian Back to Black, but less so.
notes of tonka bean, amber, vanilla, rose, orange blossom and rosemary.
Kilian Back to Black — this adds tobacco to the mix. It reminds me of a favorite uncle’s pipe.
Notes: bergamot, nutmeg, saffron, cardamom, coriander, raspberry, blue chamomile, honey, olibanum, cedar, oak, tobacco accord, patchouli, vanilla, almond and labdanum.
Yves Rocher Ispahan (1982) — it reminds me of a dear friend who brought it back from Germany for me, because I loved it on her, when YR wasn’t sold in the States. Sadly, sadly, no longer available. It always reminded me immediately, without having to wait for it to go through stages, of what YSL’s Opium smelled like after it had dried down on me, but it had more pizazz on me than Opium ever did. I’m wearing it and loving it today. And it was so inexpensive for how great it was. Some of the notes are no longer as good as they once were, but as soon as that burns off, it is just as great as it ever was.
Notes: Citrus, jasmine, patchouli and rose
Top: Lime, clove, sandalwood
Body: Rose, Amber
Base: Patchouli, jasmine
Soon I will break out my more floral and springtime fragrances — some lily of the valley; some green chypres; my Guerlain Chant d’Aromes and Chamade; my E. Coudray Nohiba; my citrus and sweet oranges … and celebrate the once-again newness of Spring!
How about you?
I want to hear what you find comforting. Please leave a message below.
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How’s this for a feel good story to start the day with!
In late 2008, a couple from South Africa crossed the Atlantic aboard the beautiful Queen Mary 2 and alongside the Queen Elizabeth 2, during the latter’s final voyage across the pond. While taking pictures of the QE2’s historic crossing, their camera slipped and disappeared into the deep blue sea.
In January of this year, fifteen months after the camera was lost, a fisherman trawling the ocean floor found the camera in his fishing net. The camera was inoperable but the memory card and photos were intact.
The fisherman viewed the photos, which included a picture of a woman standing on the deck of a ship with the QE2 at sea in the background. The fisherman contacted the BBC, where a correspondent determined that the passengers had been aboard the QM2.
Cunard was notified and the company was able to identify and locate the couple and reunite them with their photos, plucked from the bottom of the sea. Vacations to Go
Many years ago, I lost a camera in a taxi in Guangzhou. I still hope that somehow the pictures will get back to me, because they are irreplaceable. This was before I had a digital camera. It’s possible! If a camera, pictures intact, can be plucked from the sea, then anything is possible!
Sometimes you hear that still, small voice, but you don’t realize it. The day I lost the camera, when I removed everything from the taxi, the thought came to me to double check, but I didn’t follow through. I thought I had all my bags. That was a hard lesson, but one I hope not to repeat. I had my bags, but the camera had slipped out. The memories of that precious day are engraved in my heart, even if I don’t have the photos.
Have you ever had a lost item found in an unusual way or after an unusual amount of time?
Sometimes I think the best way is not to look for the item past a certain point, but wait for it to surface. I’ve found things in places I would never think to look. And I’ve also been able to replace an item several years later, after I wasn’t actively looking for it or a replacement. So where is the latest item that has gone missing! Perhaps in the same place that individual socks go.
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One thing he asked the audience at one of his three concerts was: what is a pianist’s greatest fear? His answer was not forgetting the music, but the loss of a hand. Then he played an entire piece using just his left hand. You can imagine how difficult that is, especially if you are right handed.
This story of Hee Ah Lee takes it even farther. Born with serious birth defects, she has mastered piano with the use of only 4 fingers, some of which do not function as normal fingers. It makes many difficulties most of us might face seem very small in comparison.
It moved me to tears. I was also moved that her mother resisted family pressure to abandon her to adoption to Canada or the West. To her mother, Hee Ah Lee has always been beautiful and perfect.
She has given more than 200 concerts and loves to perform. If you watch the second video to the very end, you can see that she knows how to interact with the audience.
Here’s a short piece played by her:
And a longer story:
You can find other videos featuring her also.
The lesson here, to me, is find a way. If something seems impossible, yet our talents are leading us to do it, find a way.
There is a unique way for each of us to accomplish most anything, if we truly desire it, work toward it, and have our own vision that we keep in sight. It also helps to surround ourselves with others who will help forward our vision or even lead us to it. Eliminate naysayers! Work towards the end we are trying to achieve.
The world needs our music, whether we are playing music or living the music of our lives. Each of us is needed.
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I simply love this quote, not much else to add to that. I like it for me as both the parent and the child I once was, but still embody. I too had an excellent childhood, or at least a plenty-good-enough one, but I wasn’t taught the rest of this. I had to pick it up for myself in the parades of life. And I have to encourage my children in this direction.
As an adult, once when I was going through what might possibly have been a difficult situation, someone said to me to view it as if I were sitting in a parade stand. I should think of it as if I were (or had been) watching it pass by, not as if I were in it. I thought that was very helpful to remember. I had sort of felt that way at the time it was happening, not exactly removed from it, but not within it either. It helped me feel freer of any repercussions. And it seemed a kind of grace.
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If kvetching is second nature to you, I heard today of rubber bracelets to be worn to help you stop complaining. I guess even Oprah talked about it on her show. I’m behind in finding out about things.
It is worn on one wrist, until you complain, then you move it to the other wrist and begin to count again. The hope is to get to 21 days without changing wrists. Thankfully, it doesn’t register complaints in your mind, only spoken complaints.
And I don’t think it counts for legitimate complaints (though we should be honest with ourselves which are and which aren’t, LOL)
It’s spreading around the world. So far, more than 3.5 million have been ordered, going to 78 countries. If you want to read a story about it, go here; or to order bracelets and read more about it, go here.
See my later post on this here. I added pictures from this post below:
My bracelet
I thought about making a bracelet with the words No complaint, but for me, I wanted a positive reminder of what I hope to bring.
I was playing around with alphabet beads to see what letters I had to work with. It isn’t necessary to put much money into making a bracelet like these. I made two bracelets that I alternate wearing. If I find I really enjoy them, I will remake them in silver beads. I added crystals and carved beads to make them more interesting.
Create-Imagine-Appreciate
Bring Joy-Love-Pax
What do you do if you find yourself chronically complaining? What do you want to bring to situations? How do you keep resentments and complaints from sizzling?
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Just when it seems like a bit of good news would be exceedingly welcomed, comes this true story (I’ve checked it with Snopes) about a woman hand feeding hummingbirds.
Isn’t it great that with the Internet we have a way to easily share these experiences that we might never hear about otherwise?!
Thanks to Cathy for sharing with me in the first place!
It’s a reminder to me that “God’s in his heaven; all’s right with the world.”
from “Pippa Passes”
The year’s at the spring
And day’s at the morn;
Morning’s at seven;
The hill-side’s dew-pearled
The lark’s on the wing;
The snail’s on the thorn;
God’s in his Heaven -
All’s right with the world!
Robert Browning (1812-1889)
Is it possible that in these difficult times we could trust more deeply that God will feed and clothe us, as he does the birds and the lilies? Whether we are literally in need of food, shelter, clothing, water, health, employment or any of a myriad of other needs, the most basic need is for the ideas that will lead us in the right direction and out of limitation.
Ideas are always limitless! (This goes along with the short movie I posted earlier.)
Not too long ago while pondering how I should schedule my day, though my first inclination the night before had been to get on down the road and back home, I felt it was all right to meander a bit. In doing so, I had a number of interesting conversations with strangers, some welcome time with a friend, and a bit of fashion enjoyment, including some time with perfumes.
After I’d been back on the highway for a while, an electronic sign informed me of an accident 26 miles down the road. One lane was closed. (I learned later that it had only cleared about an hour before I got there.) If I had hurried my way home, I would have been stuck for hours while they cleared the road. I was able to get past it without any lost time.
Sometimes we do not know what we or others are protected from, but this time it was apparent. And it could have been far worse, but thankfully wasn’t. On this busy stretch of road, many more could have been involved in this accident but were not.
That’s just a small example of how ideas will clear our day for us. Expect ideas today and always that will help you!
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At first dreams seem impossible, then improbable, then inevitable. Christopher Reeve (1952-2004)
…destination, determination, deliberation…[the 3 D's important to know in learning to apparate**] J.K. Rowling
In re-hearing these 3 D’s, it struck me that these 3 D’s are important in bringing good into our lives. What is our destination — what are we aiming for (or dreaming into being)…are we determined enough to move it from the improbable to the inevitable…and then do we add the quality of deliberation of truly thinking it through — realizing it is not self-will, but that it is expectation and self-openness that speed our progress?
If you have read the sequence where Harry Potter and his friends learn to apparate, you know it doesn’t always work as planned on the first try. (I say this about the transporter in Star Trek — I’ll want to make sure the apple gets to the other end in one piece before I try it.) If their train of thought is broken, they don’t apparate correctly. Perhaps that is the way it is with dreams. Some dreams are inevitable because we dedicate our thought to them. Some other dreams we let go of, because other dreams are coming into being or a dream simply isn’t dream-worthy.
It was a long haul to the adoption of our first Chinese daughter. A lot of doors shut before we found China, and it took so long, it was as if it had shut too. It is tempting to give it up, but if it is truly to come into being then we mustn’t quit, we just keep on doing what needs to be done as it needs to be done, never discounting the courage to keep going.
Three people come to mind who never gave up: Winston Churchill, Eleanor Roosevelt, and Helen Keller. I’m sure there are others. They faced and mastered obstacles greater than I’ve ever been called upon to face. And persevered.
Face your deficiencies and acknowledge them; but do not let them master you. Let them teach you patience, sweetness, insight. Helen Keller (1880-1968)
Karin
**Apparition (A-pa-RI-shun)
Apparate, Disapparate
nonverbal spell
from “appareo” L. to appear
Advanced spell used by fully trained witches and wizards to disappear from one place and appear almost instantly somewhere else. A person who uses this spell is referred to as an Apparator.
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One ought, every day at least, to hear a little song, read a good poem, see a fine picture and, if it were possible, speak a few reasonable words. Johann Wolfgang von Goethe, poet, dramatist, novelist, and philosopher (1749-1832)
I think I live by this philosophy. I bring into my life the elements I need for happiness, things of beauty.
Even fragrance exists outside the bare utility of life. It adds to life; it does not subtract. Recently someone remarked that because her month had been hectic, stressful and hard, she chose to wear scents that she felt would anchor her when dealing with the issues — scents that felt either grounding or comforting. I thought that was very astute. I also choose my scents by how I feel on a particular day. Her remarks made me think again of the mood altering effects of perfumes. We can change the way we feel by the elements we bring into our days.
And when I am happy, it brings happiness not only into my experience, but lightens those who know me.
Contrast this to the following:
One of the indictments of civilizations is that happiness and intelligence are so rarely found in the same person. -William Feather, author, editor and publisher (1889-1981)
What is happiness, anyway? I believe it exists entwined in the rest of life, including intelligence, which presumably would lead us to the things that bring us happiness, such as Goethe suggested.
Perhaps happiness is also entwined with a degree of solution-thinking. If we believe that a solution exists or could be brought to bear upon the difficulties we face or see, then we are less apt to sink into despair. I don’t have to be the one to find a particular solution. It may be enough for me to acknowledge that a solution can be found. I like to think this makes it easier for the one who is searching for a solution to find it.
I don’t think happiness is ignoring the world. Rather it is refocusing on what is beautiful in the world.
What brings you happiness? Do you make a conscious effort to include more in your life?
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2009 was a good year. Any time one’s health is good, and that of one’s family and friends, it is a good year. Then throw in a few good times, a lotta good perfumes, some good books and movies, and it becomes a very good year indeed.
It’s always nice to put some thought into those things we love.
Best Perfumery Trends in 2009:
It has to be oud, which is everywhere, suddenly for us in the west, but always a presence in the east. I am not located in a place easy for access to many of these, so I’m personally limited in knowledge to the ones I’ve sampled.
First, perfumes.
As for perfumes, remember I’m in the back of beyond as far as easily sniffing some of the lines, so if you have a favorite or are a favorite, if I have samples, I’ll be glad to add my voice.
Best expensive niche:
Andy Tauer Une Rose Chyprée: A wearable rose, with vintage aspects, not quite dirty.
Anything by Ormonde Jayne or Andy Tauer or Ayala Moriel or Neil Morris or…
Best less expensive niche
Anything by Sonoma Scent.
Best in fragrances more easily found, some niche: Kilian Back to Black Kilian Pure Oud
Guerlain exclusives, take your pick. I like a number of them, including Moscow, Double Vanilla, 68, Chypre Fatale, La Petite Robe Noire…then there’s also Mon Precieux Nectar…I buy from Guerlain @ Palazzo in Las Vegas, ask for Claire. Call (702) 732-7008 or email: GuerlainPalazzo.STORE@lvmhuspc.com. Be sure to tell him that you heard it from me. (I saw them recently on a trip more locally, but the sales agent blew the sale with me. That’ll teach her, LOL!)
Serge Lutens, take your pick.
Prada, the original, and L’eau Ambree.
Chanel exclusives — I like Coromandel.
Best surprising fragrances Le Jardin Retrouvé should be more fully known. I was glad to get a chance to review them.
Best inexpensive fragrances
Make Me Smooth
Bathed and Infused
Skin care that really works:
These are not new for 2009, but they still are going strong, and more importantly, work.
Best Moderate to expensive
Arbonne products RE9 or FC5; RE9 for the body is terrific.
Estee Lauder New Perfectionist CP+
La Prairie Cellular Anti-wrinkle Firming Serum; Cellular Hydrating is good too.
Best inexpensive skincare
Avon Ultimate Gold or Anew Alternative Intensive Age Treatment
Best cosmetic trends 2009
Minerals, everywhere. Some much better than others in texture and look.
Best color products, Not Mineral High end
Chanel
Less expensive
Arbonne
Aromaleigh
Maybelline
NYX
Best lip gloss
MAC dazzlers comes in first
Beaute
Arbonne
Chanel
Best mineral niche
Aromaleigh or Fyrinnae
Best new product
Kindle 2 International — would be made better if it incorporated the ease of reading library ebooks, if our library had any. Please send us a free wireless download to add this in order to be competitive with Sony’s ereader. (Elena, you will really enjoy yours! Congrats on receiving it as a gift this Christmas.)
The best things in life are still free
You can find a gazillion free ebooks to read on your Kindle or other ebook reader before you even consider buying any ebooks.
Don’t forget to take time to view sunrises or sunsets or enjoy seeing bodies of water, free to all if we but take the time.
Internet friendships that become RL friendships. This is an amazing time we live in, when we can be instantly connected to friends around the world. You know who you are! I regularly keep in touch with friends in Europe and China, as well as at home from coast to coast. Not to mention checking in on blogs and yahoogroups I love that originate anywhere.
The qualities of hope, inspiration, gratitude, happiness, safety…
Don’t forget prayer…
What are your favorites?
I’m sure I left something out…
If I think of anything amazing, I will add it as the day goes on…
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