Comments on: A little unfortunate vignette

By: Karin

Karin — Sat, 15 Sep 2007 12:24:18 +0000

Thanks, I’m hoping and praying she has someone in her life who will speak up to her (and him) or that she will have the courage and strength to know what to do for herself. They both deserve to claim their higher selfhood.

By: BitterGrace

BitterGrace — Sat, 15 Sep 2007 01:45:36 +0000

As somebody who grew up with an alcoholic parent, I’d say never cut anybody any slack over what they say when they’re drunk. Just the reverse. Booze doesn’t make you a different person, it just shuts down your internal editor.

I doubt there’s anything you could have said that would have been helpful, since they were strangers. If the girl had been someone I knew, I wouldn’t have hesitated to tell her she needs to get away from the guy ASAP. A lover who hurls insults in a quarrel might be forgiven, but one who goes out of his way to humiliate you in front of a complete stranger is just toxic.

By: Karin

Karin — Fri, 14 Sep 2007 02:08:31 +0000

Thanks, E. I think so too, unless it is a one-off, but it’s easy to have a one-off lead to another one-off and before you know it a lot of time has gone by.

By: helg

helg — Thu, 13 Sep 2007 20:58:20 +0000

I sincerely hope she gets away before that…..

By: Karin

Karin — Thu, 13 Sep 2007 15:50:31 +0000

I never can understand the need to put someone else down. After all, they were together, so is he not saying something about himself (outside of the fact that he was an insensitive clod, more than a bit drunk, unkind, not funny, and perhaps a chauvinist) and the kind of woman he can be with.

Is this the kind of comment she will be subjected to into old age and will he get more ascerbic?

By: helg

helg — Thu, 13 Sep 2007 12:42:41 +0000

Since she is attractive to begin with (from what you say), I’d say she does know that this is totally absurd? And therefore pays no real attention? *hopeful, confused look*

However this is seriously embarassing for anyone hearing this and I don’t know why he felt the need to say it! Sometimes things that make no sense are an inside thing for some people, though. I imagine there is some subtext to this.
I’m sure there was nothing you could have said…