This touched me when I read it, and I thought it might touch you too.

Karin

I will never know what it is to be an adoptee (and I say that fully aware of the diversity of experience of adoptees).

But I don’t think it is possible to know what it is to be a parent unless you are one either (or until you are one). Parenting is an incomprehensible responsiblity within a sea of gray. Sometimes we are rowing our boat in the sea of gray while fog obscures our vision. We try to listen and smell our way but then realize we’ve dropped the oar. Without question, tho, I wouldn’t trade my seat on this rowboat (which some days seems to even leak a bit!) for anything in the world. (Other days I think parenting is juggling on a unicycle when you don’t know how to do either of those things.)

Elizabeth Stone wrote “Making the decision to have a child - it’s momentous. It is to decide forever to have your heart go walking outside your body.” I can’t tell you how deeply this now resonates with me…but didn’t at all before I became a parent.

I am so grateful for this journey…even the moments when I wonder what the heck it is we’re doing right….

peace
marlowe, mama to 4 in michigan, with permission from IAT

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