We thought we had done everything we could to ensure an ethical adoption, yet here we are parenting children who have been stolen and sold. Anonymous poster at IAT, with permission, known to me

The first step is being willing to look at reality and not blink or wink and own it as reality, even if it’s painful. The next step can’t be taken until we do the first. And get angry and upset and passionate about what we see. (and not deciding instead to more comfortably stick our heads back down in the sand).

The next step is asking what can be done, figuring it out concretely, and then applying all of our many, many talents to the task of making a difference.

Desiree at IAT, with permission

I consider Desiree and her husband David modern day heroes in the fight for ethics in adoption. I will ask her to share some of what she and her husband are doing here at my blog. And I have also asked her how we can muster the forces and resources at IAT in the fight.

For those of us who have no specifics about the background of our children, we can hope (and did hope) for ethical adoptions, but any one of us might be surprised. It behooves us to support the fight.

I put this in the section, What the hell were they thinking, not to fault the adoptive families/parents, but to point out those who perpetrate evils.

Please also, replay the song, I need a hero/Holding out for a hero that I posted a day ago.

Karin

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