We APs are a solution to problems in some ways, but we then generate new & unnecessary problems. Same old.

Keep reading & looking, China is working on it, I can best work on me.

We need the voices of Adult Adoptees, whether at the IAT yahoo site, or in a book, a lecture, a seminar. No one else cuts thru it as well. The stuff I demonstrate in talk & attitude, really exposes my bias & lack of understanding. Maybe I’m learning xyz, but oblivious of abc. I see what I see, but how much is way off in me that my kids will see?

How is it possible for experienced APs to avoid main issues, including preconceptions, while diving into dance- around- the-issue answers?
Gordon, Adoptive Parent (AP) with permission

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